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Learning to accept myself
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Trying to continue coping despite my past history. I Lost my job( of almost 10 years) last November and not given a reason for losing my job by my former employer either. Also, please remember me in your prayers as I pray for all other crime victims like us in my prayers too.
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Herefordshire Calling
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Afternoon All,
I'm Annemarie brand new on here today, finding my way around and trying to make a good impression while i'm having a good day( not too many of them at the moment) All the message on here are great really helps to know that there is someone who knows what you are going through, I get sick of h...
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Greetings...
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And a big hello to anyone out there.
Just a few details.
I am Male
47 yearsold. Married. Two wonderful(grown up children).
Live in South Wales and looking for new contacts.
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Hi
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Hi
My name is Tracy and i'm 26 years old. I live in west yorkshire and i am currently working as an early years support worker in a childrens centre.
The reason i am here is that i was sexually abused by my older brother who is 8 years older than me i was 11 when it started. I bottled it up for a long time but r...
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hi
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hi i am new i am 20 and i am called bubbles i was abused from age 4 to age 10ish maybe later by different people, i live on isle of man i hope to make some friends who understand,
love
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new and need someone who understands
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hi im new on this, i was abused by my father from the age of 7 up untill i was 19 and a half. then when he tried to touch my at that point 7yr old niece i went to the police and made a statement.
it took two yrs to get to court and he got 3yrs for abusing me and my older sister who i found out he had abused aswel...
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ADvice needed
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HI, I am looking for advice for my partner. She was abused by her step father for 3 years and has never told anyone. she briefly mentioned it to me, Only in passing as she thinks her mother has found out. She is a keen rugby player but due to injury she is unable to play or go to the gym. The reason I mention this...
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Hi!
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Hi there,
My name is fiona and im 24 years old and live in liverpool in the uk. I have a little boy who is 3 who i love to bits!!
I am here because i was sexually abused by my father from as far back as i can remember til i was about 11 and im trying to come to terms with it.
This is all kinda scary and new but I re...
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hello
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hello everyone
i am a member of the havoca support forum, and while visiting havoca have come accross this pen pal board
thing is it doesnt seem to be very active, or am i missing something and everybody is somewhere else?
i recognise some names...
guess i just dont know what to do now !!!
rega...
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New and need someone to talk to
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Hi my name is james and iam 27 years old. i was abused by a teacher at a borading school from the ages of 11 to 13. I tryed to kill myself when i was 14 because of this. At the moment i am suffering from great depression and flashbacks and i have no one to talk to as my f...
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Need a friend to talk to.
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Hi my name is James and i am 27 years old. At the age of 12 i was sent to a boarding school and was sexually abused by a teacher until i was 13. At the time i did not tell anyone and like today feel ashamed i did not. I told my family in april of last year and also i went to the police and gave them...
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Another Newbie and info
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I am another new member and I was going to begin with something I am currently going through, but as I was signing up the history question, prompted another topic, my very beginning, because my mother had quite a few children from different men who she was never married to and she also never looke...
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New here
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Hi,
My name is Katie and I'm 25 and am recovering from some past abuse I have experienced.
I was sexually, emotionally, and psychologically abused. I was also bullied in school a lot, was neglected as a baby and in some of my childhood and in a domestic abuse situation with my adoptive...
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new guy =)
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hi everyone.
i'm paul , 24, and i've only very recently been able to realise / admit to myself that something terrible sexually happened to me as a child... and realise and accept how it affects my adult life.
it is nice to read and see that i am not alone.
i would love to meet people through this site...
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looking for a friend
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hi i am trashelle. I was abused from an early age till i was 11(afraid i am a little shaky on the age it started). I was abused by an aunt and possibly others. I am just starting my journey but have found that talking to other survivers as well as trained professionals has really helped. For the first time i k...
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worried
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Hello all. I am new to this site and am a little worried about posting but would like to have an email pen pal. Ten years after my abuse, just now dealing with it. It's hard.
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New Member - joined today
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Hello All,
Just wanted to introduce myself. I am 38 year old woman, happily married for the last 10 years with 1 grown up son and 2 grown up step children.
I am a survivor of sexual abuse from age 12 to 14 by a much older man who was not a family member.
The abuse took place every Sunday dur...
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31 year old Thriver Lincolnshire Uk
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Hi there
I am Angie, I have been on the healing journey some 8 years. After many years of panic attacks and depression I have finally overcome them and begun to look after myself and realise I am important and worthy. I would love to email people of a similar age who has overcome many battles in the heali...
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Hi, new and nervous
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Hi everyone,
I'm new to this site and very nervous about posting. I've only just started to admit that my father abused me psycchologically, physically and sexually when i was growing up. I'm now 24 and just facing up to what happened.
I'd love to hear from you,
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Newbie
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I am very new at this and I have never told anyone about the abuse at my house growing up. I feeel sso scared right now. My stepfather sexaully abused me foe twelve years. I just need some one to talk to.
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don't know what to do
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my name is Kale. my brother sexually abused me from 3 until 15 almost every day. i cant get rid of the shame and hatred i feel for myself. i dont know what to do anymore -- Edited by kachariw at 15:55, 2004-12-28
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Just logged in
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Hi, I just logged in to be able to take a look around the site. It's very impressive and well intentioned and I'm sure it's of great help to certain people. Unfortunately for me, I see that all the members seem to be female and I seem to be the only male here. Very odd.
I think that childhood sexual e...
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new member
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hi im a 19 year old female college student.... i don't really feel comfortable saying a lot right this moment... but i thought the idea of joining something where there's bound to be someone that i can relate to sounded nice... i'll probally write more later...
Peace
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Brand New
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Hey i am Melissa and am 20 yrs old. My cousin molested me when i was 7 yrs old and he was 14. He only did it once and it was at my grandparents house while they were down stairs and we were upstairs. Just trying to find a pen pal to chat w/ about it all b/c i am hoping one day to get past all of it....
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new to this board
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hi my name is michael im 28yrs old i have been married for 2 months and have 2 children and one on the way. i was mentally and physically abused from a very early age by my father grandfather and stepfather i was sent to a bording school at the age of 12 because i was emotionally disturbed within three...
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pen pal
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I am a 41 year old adult survivor of many years of abuse.As far back as I can remember is age 3. I would like to have a friend on the net. who woul like to be a buddy and listen to my my life and me listen to theirs . Maybe together we could help one another.
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New Member
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Hi
I have just joined and would like to chat with others .
Thanks Lin
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Hi Friends!!! Im a newbie
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Hi all, Im new here.I was sexually and mentally abused from when I was 5 till 17 years of age by my sociopathic/wife beating/pedophile/alcoholic/sexual deviant father.He abused me,my little sister,any friend I would bring in my house.So I stopped having friends ov...
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Hello everyone
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Hi,
My name is Jeremy, Jem for short. I am 38 and live in west yorkshire.
I was abused by an uncle for 3 and a half years from the age of 14.
After years of silence, my marriage broke down and I took an overdose to end it all. I survived it.
I then told my Mother about my abuse and also my wife. When I told m...
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Am I the only guy here?
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Hi,
I hope I'm not intruding. I only see women's names on the site. If this site is for women only, please tell me and I'll go away.
My name is Steve, I'm 42 years old and I'm a man. I was abused by daycare providers when I was 4, 5, and 6 years old. Also had a physically and mentally abu...
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Hi,
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Just want to say hi, and maybe for someone to say hi to me. I feel so alone at times, even though I am married (for almost 16 years) and we have 3 girls and 1 boy.
A year & 1/2 ago I told my Mother about what my dad did, everything kinda exploded from then... to make a long story short, dad die...
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New Member Alert
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Hello.
Just joined. Been nosing around the site.
I am 33.
I was abused by my step father and my mother.
I was regulary beaten from about aged 3 by both of them and bullied into silence. My step father started sexually abusing me from age 15 and continued beat...
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hello
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its kind of funny to see 'new survivor' against my name. I am 43 and been a survivor for most of my life!!
I have been visiting HAVOCA for a long time now ~ have even had two poems on the site a while ago. I just wanted to say HELLO and pleased to meet you all and sorry it is under these circumstan...
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SORRY
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Hello
This is just to say a big SORRY to every one who wrote to me. I thought that I would have enough time to start some conversations with others. Since posting the previous post life has changed, trying to come to terms with schedules imposed by others is very hard...
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New Here
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First night on site. Hope this works.
Have multiple diagnoses, from panic disorder, to PTSD and dissociate (only one personality though) Was recently given dx of manic depression. Mental Health has bounced me from one therapist to another for two years now.
Dad was a sadistic rapist tha...
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Hello
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Hello, just introducing myself, I am a 52 year old woman, with two daughters and two grandchildren. I make a living by helping to run three very small businesses.
I was abused psychologicaly, emotionaly and physically for most of my childhood. I was raped when I was ten by the father of two of my half s...
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new member
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just saying hi. Ive never done this before so thought would give it a go.
Im 31 years old and have was abused by a baby sitter/family friend since as far back as i can remeber until i was 16 years old. I told my grandad and then he started to abuse me to. Im pretty messed up and i hate myse...
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just saying hello....
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Hello - My name is Liz, I'm 44 (wow that looks old)!. Married with a 12 year old son who thinks I AM old! and live in South Yorkshire, uk.
I was sexually abused as a teen-ager, disclosed nearly 4 years ago and sometimes wonder why I did - never realising then how the effects wou...
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Hi - I'm JC
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I'm a 46 year old woman, married (twice) with no children. I'm working as a professional in a fairly high-stress occupation.
I'm dealing with maternal abuse, physical and psychological, and neglect.
I'm also dealing with complete family estrangement - no contact with either close or ext...
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Hi to everyone
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Just want to say hi to everyone and thank you to Havoca for providing this forum.
I am a 50 yr old lady who was abused for many years and am travelling the painful journey of healing at present. I hope that together with others here we can share our journey and give support to each other un...
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new member
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Just would like to say hello to everyone as I am a new member. I am 44 years old, a mum of six. Iwas abused from an early age by various members of my family includind my father and grandfather. I have many dark spaces in my memoy. I disclosed about 3 nearly 4 years ago and am working through my life trying to fi...
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hi
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Hi
My name is Angela, aged 38 and living in manchester.
I was sexually abused from the age of 2 till 13 by friends / acquaintainces of the family.
Not really sure what I am expecting or hoping to get from this, but I dont have anything to loose.
Take care and hopefully talk to you soon...
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Hi from Louise
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Hi everyone, I am a 19 year old girl and i was sexually abused by my older cousin for the best part of four years, i told my secret last year and didnt really get the best reactiona or support from my family. I sometime wish i had never even told at all maybe it would have been easier to deal with than the...
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He thinks he's won
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my stepfather seems to think that he has ruined my life but he is mistaken his sexual abuse towards me turned me into a loner and afraid to talk to anyone as he told me if i told he would kill me and anyway no one would believe me. so i just grew up on my own from the age of 10 not caring or feeling for anyone and if i...
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Having been a childhood sexworker and prostitute
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As a younger child i had been suffered child abuse and had been a childhood sexworker and prostitute and people in my area still want me to be their sexworker. I am Adrenal Hyperplasia (Intersex) and would like to contact people in edinburgh/scotland and elsewhere as I am recovering fro...
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Tracy
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Hello - My name is Tracy. I am 39 years old and live in the North East of England.
I was systematically sexually and physically abused by my father for around 12 years until I had the courage to escape the day before my 18th birthday. Why did I wait so long? The truth is I didn't realis...
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AMANDA
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Hello
I am aware I am the first and this scares me as I feel a bit of a guinea pig but I hope I dont put you off replying.
My name is Amanda
I am 45 years of age live in England on the South Coast by the sea.
My life was one of ritual abuse involving sexual physical and emotional punishments
I hope I am a g...
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New member saying Hello
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Hello to all here on the forun. I actually got the link from a survivor from another survivors group that I am in. My story is long and confusing. I have posted my story on a webpage on a abuse support website, if you care to take the time to read my story, here is the link http://m...
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hello
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Hi
I'm caren 34 from lancs uk ,mum to 6 wonderful kids and a wonderful B/F mark
I suffered sexual , physical , and mental abuse from both my mum and dad , looking to chat to people that have been though same
take care
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me
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hey.... I live in Birmingham and I am 23, I was abused by my cousin for four years from the age of four. i was raped by three different men on three different occasions when i was 18,19 and when i was 20. i am finding it difficult to believe that it can happen that many times without it being at least partly my f...
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hi,
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hi all,
hi my name is Di and i am 28 and just moved to birmingham,
I was abused from 4 till i was 13 by my mothers brother and now i am trying to come to terms with it as i never delt with this till now,
i hope now im trying to sort this things will get better??
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Kelly
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Hiya my name is Kelly i am 23 from Worthing.
I was sexually, emotionally and physically abused by my stepfather for many years. After a long struggle he was put in prison... that was 6 years ago and hes due for parol soon, i am quite worried about this although the police and such like are very support...
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Bob Smith (Example only)
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Hi,
My name is Bob, I'm 23 years old and I'm a man. I would love to chat to people who have suffered with childhood abuse. I was abused by my parents when I was an infant and I have suffered as a consequence since.
Please use the private message function, after you have clicked on my name on...
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