HI, I am looking for advice for my partner. She was abused by her step father for 3 years and has never told anyone. she briefly mentioned it to me, Only in passing as she thinks her mother has found out. She is a keen rugby player but due to injury she is unable to play or go to the gym. The reason I mention this is I think her passion for rugby helps to keep her emotions in controll and she can bury the passed out in the pitch, but now she is slowly breaking, she has become physically distant and crys at night. She's finding it extremely difficult to forget her passed. I don't know how to help her, she refuses to talk to me or anyone. I have not pushed and have told her I am here for her always. She says she feels dirty and finds it difficult to even give a hug sometimes. I love her so much and hate seeing her fall apart.

I don't know what to do, I've bought her 2 books for her that I got from this site that were recommended from other survivers. I planned on giving them to her to read when she's ready. I respect her wishes and thought that this might be the best way to help her healing process.

Should I give them to her or have I gone about this the wrong way. We only speak about it when she brings the topic up and I listen giving all the love and support i have. But usually the following morning she smiles and makes a joke about how we didn't get enough sleep because of me keeping her up annoying her!

please help.

Thank you