Just wanted to introduce myself. I am 38 year old woman, happily married for the last 10 years with 1 grown up son and 2 grown up step children.
I am a survivor of sexual abuse from age 12 to 14 by a much older man who was not a family member.
The abuse took place every Sunday during that period and I had to visit the abusers house (as he told me all sorts of really bad things would happen if I didn't)
My 21 year old son has recently disclosed to me that he too was sexualy abused at the age of 7 by the 14 year old son of a previous partner (with whom I spent 3 years) the boy abuser was also abusing his sister who was also 7 at the time.
My son then told me he was raped by a 19 year old man when he was 12.
This disclosure has opened up feelings for me that I have kept under control for many years and I realise that I now need support not just for myself but so that I am able to help my son.
I feel that this is far worse for me to deal with than my own abuse and would appreciate any help and advice anyone could offer me.
I work for social services connected to the mental health team which has given me lots of coping skills / strategies and of course I am willing to share what I have learnt and found helpful with anyone who wishes to contact me.
Thank you for reading my first posting.
Warm Regards
Jing.
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Nice to meet you. I'm new too. I'm 23 yr. old woman - married with a 2 year old son. I don't know what I would do given the information you have. I do know there is a big God who we can always turn to.
I was mollested at 13 by my uncle. It only happened once. He was drunk. I don't even think he remembers -- which I prefer. Life is hard to understand sometimes. Hang in there.
