Hello - My name is Liz, I'm 44 (wow that looks old)!. Married with a 12 year old son who thinks I AM old! and live in South Yorkshire, uk.
I was sexually abused as a teen-ager, disclosed nearly 4 years ago and sometimes wonder why I did - never realising then how the effects would permeate every area of my life now.
I find it difficult to talk to my husband about any of this. Sometimes though I just feel so alone . It kind of feels how it was when I was a child and the abuse was happening and there was no-one to tell then. Feels like I've come full circle, and healing remains just out of reach.
It would be good just to talk to others, offer support along the way and know there are others out there who understand something of my pain.
Look forward to hearing from you.... and I wish you well on your own journeys towards healing.
'The world breaks everyone and afterward some are strong at the broken places' - Ernest Hemingway- Farewell to Arms
I can never remember thinking my parents were old but then I suppose that because of their abuse I didn't think my children think I am ancient I feel it sometimes
I suffered sexual ,phyical and mental abuse , but only came out 2 years ago (i'm 34 ) i'v 6 kids and a wonderful b/f but god i feel so alone ,if u want to chat some time we could chat
I am nearly as old as you and my sons, 11 and 14, declare that I am nearly 100! I suppose that compared to them we are nearly 100. I was sexually abused as a teenager and feel as you do. Having told my story, I sort of wish I had never revisited it. Yes it can, at times, feel like I am right back there. Like you I can not talk to my husband about any of it and can't face the reality of it.
The thing is, if it is not disclosed would it just all fester beneath the suface and rear its ugly head in an even more destructive way?
My name is Mary. I am 44 years old too and disclosed about 3 years ago. I was abuse from an early age. I sometimes wonder why I said anything but do believe it was for the best even though many things have happened since I said something. I am in the process of trying to find me. Take Care Mary
yes liz it does fester and come out a lot worse, i know that i am male but it stll ruined most of my life and taken away the one woman i fell in love with as she couldn't cope with the deression and the lies i used to keee at bay and not let them close to me so it can come out worse
I wish I hadn't told my husband about the sexual abuse because he found it very hard to cope with. I thought he would be able to handle it but he couldn't. It can be very hard on relatives. It was better for both of us before he knew. I think knowing has caused him more pain than it helped me. I'd rather use separate sources for help.
The word around here is wrinklies. When one of my sons heard about me swimming in a pool for over an hour with several other over 50's he said "How can you tell when old people have been in the water too long because their skin is already wrinkly?" Don't worry their turn will come.
