Hi there. This is my first time on the forum. I started therapy about a month ago. It's pretty painful, and my flashbacks are awful, but i know that i have to go through this. I'm 29 now and feel like i need some closure to this so i can get on with MY life.
I was sexually, emotionally, and physically abused from about 5. From about 11 years, it was just emotional (i don't think that is the right word) My mum was nasty and would get into my head, this didn't stop until about 2 years ago. I still live in the same town as her, but have no contact now.
I would really like some advice on how to talk to my husband about it. My therapist said it would be good to share my feelings but i don't know how to even start Help please.
Telling your husband will be hard and painfully. I got alot of support of here and have made some great friends who help me along my journey to healing. Havoca have a good section for partners, I know it sounds silly but i wrote to my partner even though we lived together. I made sure i put down what i want to say not to detailed. Made sure i had cleared the house of child and others, so he had the time to read it. I explained why i had wrote the letter as it is hard to tell the person you love and loves you about the abuse as they will want to ask questions and get upset. If you tell them by letter you can say everything with out that. Then when my partner read it i told him i would be waiting for him when he was ready to talk, i just did not want to see his face i know that may sound bad, but i was dealing with so much pain i did not want to take his on and end up taking on his pain. There are alot of great books and web site out there for husbands and love ones to support them in there journey to support us. Thats how i told my partner, others may have told their others face to face. I just could not do that. We are all here for you, email me if you feel you would like to
