Well Im 24 and have never had any kind of help for the abuse i endured as a child. For a long time I thought i had put it behind me but i hadn't. I just need someone to talk to who understands where im coming from it is so hard to talk to someone who has no idea what it is like. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Have just joined this site searching for advice and for people who have endured the same matters as i have.
Am 22 and i also have never had any form of help whatsoever. The main reason for this is that i have never spoke out aloud. I find it too scary to just go tell someone just like that as this is something that just seems too embarrassing to say and also too scared of what people would think of me if i told them.
Anyway, i was physically abused at around the age of 5-6 years old by my father. I have been trying to put it all behind me because i just didn't want to believe it was actually true as for 1. he is my dad, and 2 i didn't want to believe it.
So yeah that's just an insight of what i went through. If any of you have any advice of how to overcome this or anything i really would appreciate it as i just want a clear conscience.
Hi Chris I can't imagine how hard it is to have never told anyone I actually did tell my mom what happened but I don't know if she didn't believe me or didn't want to believe me. I just felt ashamed and embarrassed and I don't think anyone ever said anything to my abuser which was an older cousin. I was only about 7 when it happened but I never said anything for like 3 or 4 years after. So basically telling someone didn't really help me much.
As time went on I just pushed the thoughts so far in the back of my mind that I had forgotten about it for a really long time. For some reason now the thoughts are back and I think about it all the time and it drives me crazy because I have no idea how to deal with it. The thing that really gets me is that he is still around and part of the family though I avoid him it just makes me so mad that I am still dealing with this and for him its like nothing ever happened. Don't know if this will help you much but sometimes just having someone to talk to can help.
I was abused by my father for many years, i am 38 now and last year he went to prison for the abuse i had suffered! How does that make me feel?, well none of my family talk to me anymore, they still dont believe that he would do such a thing! Did i do the right thing by giving a stetement to the police yes i did.... that man raped me , phisycally and mentaly abused me and it is something i will always have to live with , we all do, and you dont understand that unless you have been there. some days are tougher than others and at the moment its very tough, although i cant explain why . but im here if you need to talk. Aud
This is why most kids don't want to tell what happened to them. They're afraid no one will believe them or that everyone will blame them. It's just so twisted. My abuser never took any responsibility for any of the things he did and I'm so angry that I have had to deal with it for all these years. I told my mom what happened and I was never sure if she believed me or not but he still goes over to her house and visits. One thing that really gets me is that my mom brought him with her to my high school graduation, I hate that. It's like I'm the only one still dealing with this. But after I told what happened I never brought it up again so I think everyone else just forgot about it. I just wish that he had to pay for what he did. I hate that your family is treating you this way but at least he got what he deserved.
the main thing to remeber is that we are all survivors of abuse we managed to somehow get though it . somtimes i dont know whats worse for me the extrem bullying of my dad hitting me and putting me down as a child or my dads best friend loving me but hurting me at the same time as a child you just get so confused you just dont know who to run to espcailly if you have a mum thats just cold and does not know how to give love yes she did love me but found it very hard to connect. one of the best ways is talking about it has helped me loads but at the begaining i was not ready to talk so you have to be brave and sounds like everyone here is very brave just to talk about it
take care all
ps audrey i have sent you an email sorry its been so long
