My sister refuses to believe that I was molested by the boy that she had a crush on. I was 6 years old when the molesting started and by the time I was 9 it was full fledged rape. I was foolish enough to believe him when he said that he would kill my sister, and gave me graphic details of such said, so I never told. No I am 44 and she is 49 and refuses to talk to me about it. She takes his side and will not let me explain the threat or anything to her. Am I wasting my time trying to get through to her? I just feel she needs to know the truth. Help me please.
Sounds like a horriable time for you, It looks like your sister is having to deal with her own feels first before she can take on your's. My sister was not abused like me i was threaten with my sister too, disbelief was her first reaction, then guilty why me and not her. Then it was easlier for her not to believe safe and hurt less for her. I tried to speak to my sister, time and time again but it would always end in tears and shouting. In the end I stop seeing her for a while then started writing to her, we live in the same town it was hard the first letter but i kept on writing. I thought that one day she might read them with out getting upset and think about that it was not about her, but about you and your hurt and pain. After a long time my letters paid off and we talk now. May be it might not work for you and your sister, may be it will not. But anything as got to be worth a try. Telling family about the abuse is always the hardest part. Take care we are all here for you on Havoca
