Im 24 and live with my two children and husband to be, Things are great up until a few months ago and i started having horrible dreams that my children were me as a child, which caused a lot of emotions to be brought back up that i thought i'd burried well enough.
My mum left my real father when i was a few weeks old due to him been alcohol dependant and met her now husband.
He abused me as a child - i can remember things clearly from 7 or 8 but pretty sure things were going on before then, but when your a child time doesnt seem to be what it is now.
He was sent to prison when i finally told the truth, he got a short sentance (18 months) after my mum hid evidence and told me to say i was confused and made it up.
A year later she went on to marry him and after he was release he moved back home after his probation was over. things never happened after this but when i was 16 he got arrested for been accused of incendent exposure to one of my mums friends with learning difficulties then who was 20, he went to court but made out she was unstable and she was lying and he got off with it, but i believed what she said, it sounded all to familar.
My mum gave up her family, friends just to stay with him, I recently confronted her by facebook email and asked why he was so imported she couldnt do the right thing and get rid ... all i got was she tried her hardest and is sorry, so i told her if she was to carry on playing happy families then i wasnt going to bother talking to her anymore and all i got was ahh kk then remember i love you... i didnt speak to her for 3 weeks until she came round the other day, i thought her seeing my children and me might make her see what shes missing out on but she didnt say much about the whole situation and seemed to act like nothing was said. Im extremely confused weather i should carry a relationship on with her. I never go round to her flat due to him been stuck in his chair, so i only see her if she comes to my house.
If anybody would like to chat about things maybe share there experience or feels in a similar situation please free to chat.
i am a victim of child abuse by my father, my mother turned her back on me and the children as well, she said she believes me and is sorry but she loves him too much and i havent heard from her since. its ripping my children to pieces, x
Hi, Im from Connecticut USA and I think you are doing the right thing staying away from unsafe people, especially if they are related to you! I cannot believe she married him. Domestic violence or manipulators are very skilled at what they do. That is why the best thing to do is start running, set boundaries, I never knew what boundaries were, I had to learn how to live and have been in counseling since 16, hey, it was forbidden, why not! I knew I didnt want to repeat patterns. Its so absurd, they treat you like garbage and its your fault. I dont live that way anymore and at 61 Im happy but I got rid of most of my friends as they were not good to me. I see a food therapist as I am losing weight and it brings up a lot of old feelings, thats the hardest thing, to be with ourselves, not dissacociate from ourselves and not use substances or shopping, whatever.
I have a 25 year old son who is fantastic. I know I broke the mode. He sees meworking on my issues and respects me. He had to get rid of a girlfriend who turned into a Charlie Sheenete and he just changed his cell phone cause of her suicidal call, hasnt seen her in 6 months. Its everywhere, just be aware and protect yourself. All the best.
