I am a survivor of a junkie mother and a drunk father.........................beaten,humilaited,ignored,and a lot of other weird ****ing stuff!!!!.................................I am also a survivor of a gang rape when i was 8 years old!!!!....................Anyway recently i was reading about stockholm syndrome where you feel for your abuser!!!.......................You justify thee ****e that they do to you?... Seriously its ****ed up but i think from reading some of your messages we all know what ****ed up is and what pain is..................................................I am slowly now recovering now and have cut my mother and father out of my life beecause well there are not good for me but they also too suffered great pain at the hands of evil...that saying it goes from generation to generation is so true.....................time is also a great healer when i n my case i started to deal with thee pain and stop using food,drugs and drink to cope or should i say not cope!!!!!.... It takes great courage to help yourself but you can!!!!!..NEVER LET UR PAST HOLD UR FUTURE HOSTAGE!!!!!!.........................